A Special Day - NOW!

Monday, January 17, 2011

Today is a Very Special Day
So I saw this great article below & I really had to share it with all of you. I bolded a few sentences as well just so you know that there is meaning in each paragraph. I know we are all busy so bookmark & come back if you don't have time.

Listen, I am not saying that I am not guilty of dwelling on the past too much BUT I also have had some hard things happen over time that I have had to just let go. As painful as they were & still are, I had to say that it was what it was, it is what it is & for right now, I can't do anything about it. I had to let it go before it brought myself down with it. Give a read below & comment away....


Today is a Very Special Day

A new year has a very special effect: it makes us feel like we have the chance to start over, to do things right this time, to make amends, to become the person we really know we can be. Hence all those resolutions made with such determination.

So why does it take a new year to make us feel like this? Why is it that for 364 days we live with regret, doubt, holding on to what we did wrong and wishing we hadn’t, or dreaming of a future that can never happen because it doesn’t exist?

No matter how hard we would like to, there is one thing we can never do and that is change the past. We can weep, beat our fists against the wall, eat bars of chocolate to assuage the guilt, but it won’t make the slightest bit of difference and won’t make us feel any better. The past is gone, over, no more. done.

Continuing to wish that our actions or words had been different means we are really not here in the present but are living in what-could-have-been or what-might-have-been or if-only. If the past is too painful or even too boring, then we switch over to the future, that place of infinite potential that we want to believe could be real, like wishful thinking or a daydream. We live in what-might-be or what-could-be.

Of course we can learn from the past. Often the most painful experience turns out to be our best teacher; we can even feel gratitude for the experience as it taught us so much. Memories can be like comfortable old shoes we are reluctant to part with. We can certainly put them on now and then, but we don’t have to hang out in them on a permanent basis.

Instead we can change our attitude toward what happened. Fully accepting that the past is irreversible and the future does not exist means we can actually be in the present moment. Finally we can just be here and now. Wow! What a relief! What a revelation!

Today is a very special day. It has never happened before and it will never happen again. And we have no idea what will come next. No one can know it.

So what a great time just to be here now! The perfect day to let the past rest where it is and let the future take care of itself. As is every day. To experience just this moment, to pay attention to the colors, sounds, smells and sensations. To pay attention to your feelings, to other people’s feelings, and to make this day, this week, this month, and this year, one of beauty and tenderness.

What does being in the present mean to you? Do comment below. This was the direct question from this article but feel free to comment on anything else you are feeling.

Posted by truth2beingfit at 1/16/2011 5:34 PM
Categories: Motivation/Support, Life, Awareness, Challenges, Inspiration, Happiness, Life Experiences, Wellness
Tags: acceptance balance challenges defining you expectations forgiveness grateful Happiness inspiration life experiences motivation New Years Resolutions thankful
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  • 1/17/2011 3:48 AM Miz wrote:
    it is silly but I often say to my girl:

    LIFE is a GIFT that is why its called the PRESENT.

    silly but heartfelt.
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    1. 1/17/2011 6:32 AM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Carla, I love that you teach your daughter this! Our stresses of the day can really be felt by kids so teaching them things like this is important!
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  • 1/17/2011 6:16 AM Patrick wrote:
    All of our days are numbered. Our number may come up several decades from now, or today could be the day. I know, a bit gloomy that thought; sorry. But you know it is true. Live for today while positioning to enjoy tomorrow as well. But don't squirrel away your best efforts for the golden years which may not come. Live NOW!
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    1. 1/17/2011 6:34 AM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Patrick, YES! I agree. I wrote something similar on Lance's blog. There is no guaranty we will see tomorrow. It will come but ya never know as you wrote...
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  • 1/17/2011 9:21 AM Dr. J wrote:
    I usually say the first thing that pops into my head, but Miz already said it, so I'm saying this.
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:47 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Miz said it all!
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  • 1/17/2011 9:38 AM Sunny wrote:
    It means not worrying, actually. My problem is more with worrying about the future, than dwelling in the past. I learned from a very wise therapist, during my divorce recovery, that it's not only a waste of time to dwell in the past, for the reasons you've outlined, it's also a waste of time to worry (about the future) because no one is guaranteed a tomorrow, 95% of what we worry about never comes to past, and other than be prepared, there isn't much we can do about any tomorrows TODAY. THAT's how I try to live in the moment. To make the best and enjoy as much as possible what's happening right now. Because today is all any of us are guaranteed.
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:47 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Sunny, love that last sentiment & agree!
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  • 1/17/2011 10:25 AM Karen wrote:
    I have often found myself not living in the present, either regretting something past or waiting for something future. Honestly, right now is a perfect example. I am just ready to be recovered from surgery and move on! Love what Miz said.
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:47 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Karen, I hear you on the recovery though.. so hard! Nothing like you but I am working thur some hard core pain from a couple weeks ago with dental stuff.. not your prob but so want it over!
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  • 1/17/2011 10:43 AM Rachael wrote:
    This is all so true for me. I am grateful for my past and what it has taught me about living in today. I sometimes find it hard to stay in today and not project myself into the future. Great article! Thanks for sharing.
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:45 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Rachael, thx for coming by! I find it hard too but I keep trying!
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  • 1/17/2011 12:47 PM RickGetsFit wrote:
    Great topic. I always take today for granted, and think about tomorrow, instead. Today is, after all, the first day in the rest of your life!
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:44 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Rick, thx so much for stopping by & commenting! I think it is important to focus on today as much as we can.. otherwise we put off till tomorrow what can be done today..... with weight loss, it is important to not put off till tomorrow as well....
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  • 1/17/2011 1:01 PM sian wrote:
    I have such a problem with the present...I don't know why? So much going on and to think about. Each night when all 4 of us can get together, I think "BLISS"!
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:42 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Love it!
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  • 1/17/2011 1:22 PM Marsial2010 wrote:
    I highlight the past occasionally, but I hope I do it only when I need to make a point. Since I'm apparently older than everyone else in blogdom, I've had more years to learn to live in the present. It is really amazing how many years I spent dwelling on the past and planning for my future. Unfortunately, as our pensions disappear, medical premiums escalate, and financial instability reigns, we are forced to think even harder about our futures. Mostly I live in the present, but right now my husband and I are doing some serious number crunching and planning to see if it makes sense for him to retire this year. I wish this decision were over, so we COULD just get on with living in the present.
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:42 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      Marsial - I actually hear you on this. We have a lot going on here these days trying to make ends meet & such with the economy.. it does make it hard at times....
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  • 1/17/2011 2:34 PM Geosomin wrote:
    This is very true...sometimes you get overwhelmed or busy with things that are going to come and forget to enjoy the here and now. There is so much to gain when every day is new. I can have a rough few days, but they don't define me. I know that once I take the time to figure out what the real problem is I can get back to my life and find what Ineed to be happy. You can start again...every day
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    1. 1/17/2011 3:41 PM truth2beingfit wrote:
      With your busy life, I bet ti is hard as you have to PLAN!
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