Are You Holding Yourself Back?
Wednesday October 20, 2010
I really love this pic. I feel peaceful when I look at it. That is me by the way. That was my last trip to Hawaii in 2007 when I turned 50. It was a tough trip... one year after the death of my mom. But I remember that it was one of the best trips I ever took to Hawaii. It put me at peace being there.
I was watching a segment of The Today show discussing a new book out by Hoda Kotb. It discusses her life & personally, I love watching her. To me, she comes thru the TV as a genuine & really caring person.
She was talking about the book & related this quote from a man next to her on an airplane. She had a sleeve on her arm at that time due to being a cancer survivor. She said to him that she hoped he would have other things to say about her after he got off the plane beyond the fact that she had breast cancer.
He said to her, come on, are you crazy. And what he said next, well, Hoda says it has stuck with her to this day. And I am paraphrasing:
Don't hog your journey. It's not just for you.You can take your business & just shove it in your pocket & go help other people.
Now I know some people may disagree with this. Some think we need to work thru everything that is holding us back to move forward. I read about this a lot.
Me, I lost my weight & still improve on my fitness goals although I have not worked thru all my issues about me & my body & life things. Yes, sometimes they hold me back & sometimes not. I guess it depends on where I am at with it.
But I guess what I am saying is that sometimes we do have to shove sh*t in our pocket & move on. We may work it out later or we may not but if it is holding us back now & we can move forward by just putting it aside for now, I say go for it.
I have lots of stuff that I wish I could change, things that are just crap in my mind sometimes to think back about BUT I have made the decision on some of this to just shove it away for now & move on. I know that at some point I may pull it back out & try to work it thru but for now, it is not productive for me to do so.... that is my decision.
I think Dr. J wrote about this a while back in terms of weight loss. He said that sometimes we just have to stop looking for all the ways to get over the baggage of the past & just start the process of living & getting healthy. Dr. J, you can comment on this more & explain it to people. You might also want to check out his great getting unstuck post and his great guest post yesterday!
That is me. I could spend the rest of my life, most likely, trying to figure out the whys of things & trying to get over crap that I can't do anything about now. I some cases, I just have chosen to "pocket it" and move on. I may pull out the crap at another time in my life but to move forward I had to do this for now.
What are your thoughts on the quote above & what I had to say about it. Do you feel you have to get over every little thing from the past to move forward?
Me, I would never have lost weight, got fit & healthy, competed in 5K's or bodybuilding & certainly would not still be pushing myself now if I had tried to get over all my past stuff first... but that is just me
Your thoughts.....
I really love this pic. I feel peaceful when I look at it. That is me by the way. That was my last trip to Hawaii in 2007 when I turned 50. It was a tough trip... one year after the death of my mom. But I remember that it was one of the best trips I ever took to Hawaii. It put me at peace being there.I was watching a segment of The Today show discussing a new book out by Hoda Kotb. It discusses her life & personally, I love watching her. To me, she comes thru the TV as a genuine & really caring person.
She was talking about the book & related this quote from a man next to her on an airplane. She had a sleeve on her arm at that time due to being a cancer survivor. She said to him that she hoped he would have other things to say about her after he got off the plane beyond the fact that she had breast cancer.
He said to her, come on, are you crazy. And what he said next, well, Hoda says it has stuck with her to this day. And I am paraphrasing:
Don't hog your journey. It's not just for you.You can take your business & just shove it in your pocket & go help other people.
Now I know some people may disagree with this. Some think we need to work thru everything that is holding us back to move forward. I read about this a lot.
Me, I lost my weight & still improve on my fitness goals although I have not worked thru all my issues about me & my body & life things. Yes, sometimes they hold me back & sometimes not. I guess it depends on where I am at with it.
But I guess what I am saying is that sometimes we do have to shove sh*t in our pocket & move on. We may work it out later or we may not but if it is holding us back now & we can move forward by just putting it aside for now, I say go for it.
I have lots of stuff that I wish I could change, things that are just crap in my mind sometimes to think back about BUT I have made the decision on some of this to just shove it away for now & move on. I know that at some point I may pull it back out & try to work it thru but for now, it is not productive for me to do so.... that is my decision.
I think Dr. J wrote about this a while back in terms of weight loss. He said that sometimes we just have to stop looking for all the ways to get over the baggage of the past & just start the process of living & getting healthy. Dr. J, you can comment on this more & explain it to people. You might also want to check out his great getting unstuck post and his great guest post yesterday!
That is me. I could spend the rest of my life, most likely, trying to figure out the whys of things & trying to get over crap that I can't do anything about now. I some cases, I just have chosen to "pocket it" and move on. I may pull out the crap at another time in my life but to move forward I had to do this for now.
What are your thoughts on the quote above & what I had to say about it. Do you feel you have to get over every little thing from the past to move forward?
Me, I would never have lost weight, got fit & healthy, competed in 5K's or bodybuilding & certainly would not still be pushing myself now if I had tried to get over all my past stuff first... but that is just me
Your thoughts.....
Posted by truth2beingfit at 10/19/2010 9:00 PM 
Categories: Challenges, Weight Loss, Life Experiences, Dieting, Inspiration, Inspirational Quotes
Tags: life experiences Hoda Kotb inspirational quotes acceptance Weight Loss inspiration defining you
Categories: Challenges, Weight Loss, Life Experiences, Dieting, Inspiration, Inspirational Quotes
Tags: life experiences Hoda Kotb inspirational quotes acceptance Weight Loss inspiration defining you
The picture of you is wonderful Jody! I know we both have similar feelings about Hawaii. Is that shot from the big island?
I think it is good to work through "our stuff", but don't know anyone who has worked through all of their stuff. It is about progress, not perfection. You inspire me Jody!
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Yup, it is the big island!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love it!
I like that, progress not perfection!
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No, I don't think I have to get past all my issues first, but I sometimes misjudge other people using that scale. In other words, I am only speaking for myself there. If I waited until I was past all my issues, I would probably never move forward.
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That is me too Steve.. I would never move forward if I tried to work thru all my issues first.
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Very thought provoking...No I don't think I have to get over things but I can't just shove them in my pocket and move on either...For me, that is what got me where I am today. Yes, I have to pay attention to my body, what I put in my mouth, make better choices but each time the scale gets to a certain number or my body gets to a certain size..those things COME UP! So working through it is CLOSELY tied to my progress. For me, I AM NOT my body and THAT right there is why I struggle with improving it..AND I can't just tuck that away in my pocket....thanks for the food for thought!
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Jules, I know that you are doing what is right for you!
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Myself, i do not need to make all from my past right in order to move forward. I feel that if I took the time to reconcile all, it will take a lifetime to do. And really, why does it need to be done? Sure, some things must come to a place of closure. But not everything. Just realizing what of the past could be better is enough for many things we'd want to change. Enough andn necessary to start making the change towards something better.
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Patrick, great thoughts here.. thank you!
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There is a beautiful quote by Bernard Malamud from "The Natural." One of the characters says, "I believe we have two lives. The life we learn with, and the life we live with after that." I'm into the living-with-after-that stage of my life now.
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Marsial, I love that quote.. thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You know I hear you talking to me today
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Well gee, this is a timely one for me!
I don't believe I *must* work through everything before moving forward, but I also can't shove things in my pocket and put them aside. well, maybe some things but not all.
There is one rather large issue that has been holding me back feeling like my feet were stuck in cement and I *thought* I had to work through it to move forward, but really it's just an excuse to not move forward.
This, and Dr J's "getting unstuck" post were two things I really needed to read today. Thanks Jody!
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Glad this helped!!!!!!!!! Dr. J is awesome!
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I am with you. If I had to work out all the emotional stuff I would still be stuck.
Sometimes depending on what is going on in my life I sail right through any bump in the road. Other times it can stop me in my tracks.
I agree with Dr J sometimes you just need to get started making the right choices and working towards improvement.
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Tami, agree.. sometimes it can sop us, other times not...
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I'm with you - sometimes you just have to try to move forward, despite yourself... if you can. It doesn't always work that way. Love that picture of you - it is truly peaceful.
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Thx Sahara! I want to be in that pic right now.. for real, in that place!
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Beautifully said, Jody!! You got to know when to hold em and know when to fold em. Sometimes you have to make things happen, and sometimes you have to let things happen. Wisdom is in those choices.
Good luck to all of us
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