Tuesday, February 16, 2010



This is tough love day. Nice Jody is gone! No, don't log me off yet!!!! I have something to say!

I read a couple great posts the past couple of days about how we should write a Valentine or love letter to ourselves. Make a point to tell ourselves how much we are worth. Many of you write about this too. It is an important message because I think most women are raised to put others first & that they come in behind everyone else. Yes, it is great to help others & I am not saying to not do that. BUT, at some point, being good to yourself first makes you a better person for everyone else around you.

Anonymous Fat Girl was talking about why people give up on their "health program" yesterday & it made me thing of the "joke" above. It is that time of year when all the new year's resolutions to lose weight & get fit start to fall by the wayside. People "give up". Why? Most of the time, it is too hard.

YES, this is hard work! Being tough again, get real. Listen, it took some time to put that weight on, didn't it? Well, the blatant truth is it is going to take way longer to take it off than it did to put it back on. And, the older you get, the tougher it gets because you have to fight aging, hormones and more.

Jack Sh*t once asked me for ONE piece of advice on weight loss. This is hard for me because as you all well know, I like to go on & on! BUT, what I said to him was consistency & patience. Yes, food is 75% plus of the equation but without consistency & patience, it will be tough going because this is a roller coaster ride! You are going to have the weight losses, but yes, you will also have times when you may gain & then come down again. There are plateaus. There are emotions that scream to us to stop this fitness crap & start eating all that food again. There are work issues & family issues & all kinds of issues to overload us & make us want to give up. BUT, this is life & you have to learn to work though it!

BUT, there is also death! Yes, tough love again. Isn't your life worth this! Aren't you worth this! If you can't do it for yourself right now, think about those you may leave behind if your health issues take the final toll. Think to some friends or maybe even you after you have lost a loved one. The people left behind are the ones that live this hell of losing their loved one. Sure, I would rather have you do this for yourself first but if you have to think about those left behind to get you started, I am fine with that. Eventually you will be doing it for you. I have been here & believe me, the people left behind are feeling it the most! A caveat- I debated posting this after Steve lost his father suddenly but in the end, I decided it was a good message & so I left this post for today.

So, if you have already given up that new years resolution OR you have not even started, think this thru & think about the "joke" above: What fits your busy schedule better (or your lack of patience & consistency), exercising 1 hour per day or being dead 24 hours per day.

Now saying that, the exercise & food program should be one you can live with long term, a lifestyle change, so find that & go with it. It will change over the years but always change it to something you can live with & do long term. I have been doing this all along for 25+ years. I have changed things many times but it is always something that is right for me & not the big gym dude telling me what to do OR a person that says their way or the highway. It does not work that way. We are all different & unique. Find you!