A New You in 2010! A Personal Admission Too
Friday, January 1, 2010!!!! A New Decade
A New Decade to Make a New You, if that is your goal. A new you does not have to mean losing weight or eating well, although those are great & I am all for that! It could be changing careers, advancing in your current career, challenging yourself in new ways, traveling places you have wanted to go or just allowing yourself down time without guilt! There are so many choices! It is all about doing what is right for you!
Believe in Yourself : To really change your behavior, you need to believe that you can do it. This belief in oneself is called self-efficacy — an individual's belief in his or her ability to succeed at something. Without it, you have less of a chance of successfully changing your behavior. So be confident in the New Year! - Diet Detective
I know this may come as a surprise to some (not to others though), but the above is still hard for me OUTSIDE the gym. I am fine with trying new fitness challenges & working the food part. BUT, when it comes to every day life, dream jobs, pushing it outside the gym, I am not there & I admit it. I have tried things in the past & it has not worked out quite the way I had hoped so I tend to pull back now. Also life experiences can play havoc with our heads. I think we all know that. Some of mine have pushed my buttons in the wrong way & I need to find a way to push the right buttons. My challenge for 2010 & beyond is to get past this & make some dreams come true.
I AM AT THE END OF MY LIFE & MY BIGGEST REGRET IS THAT I FEARED FAILURE
I have a huge fear of failure outside the gym & I am going to try really hard to get past that. I know it is going to be as tough as my weight loss journey way back when .. even tougher for me, I am sure, but I will try. I am 52 & although not old, I am not young anymore. I am on the other side. I am closer to closing in on my time here on earth so I am going to try to find a way to improve it & make it better. I am not sure what I will do with this blog. I may post less OR if I decide to keep at it consistently, I want to make it better & advance it like many of you have done with your blogs. This is still a decision that is up in the air for me.
I think fear of failure is huge for many. I do not think I am alone by any means! We all have those buttons that were pushed the wrong way but it is what we do about getting past it. The fitness stuff is the easy part for me .... although physically challenging, I have no trouble doing it & sticking with it. Life, another thing... Maybe we can all help each other!
Remember my insanity post? "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing year after year and expecting a different result." Well, it showed up in this article: New Year, New Choices:
What choices will you make in 2010? One thing is for sure: if we keep doing the same things, we will continue getting the same results. This year, I propose we make the ultimate resolution: a resolution that in reality we all need to make. Beyond the diets, the exercise routines and the half-hearted attempts to give up our bad habits, I propose a deeper decision: an internal choice, a shift in our consciousness that will transform our perception of reality.
This new years resolution is a resolution to make in each moment, to make choices that are not hampered by the subconscious habits of the past. This resolution should be to choose to become more love, more of our true essence; that peace, that joy, that innocence. Why do I say this is the only resolution? Because from the most abundant source flows everything else that we desire in order to to fulfill our need for happiness and completion. When I focus on the love, everything else is a natural consequence.
Praise love for this moment in its perfection, focusing on the heart. You will start to see the “good” and “bad” in the world around you as only a part of the game of humanity, which increasingly affects you less and less, and that simple situations become instilled with vibrance and fun when you become the love. By doing so, you will naturally be helping increase this awareness in those around you.
This new year, let’s not be hindered by the decisions that didn’t bring us joy in the past. Let’s embrace a new perspective, and challenge the limits of that which we have known, by diving into the silent depths of being, to discover the undiscovered, and reunite with the union beyond discrimination, separation and the fear based control of the intellect.
Do you have trouble believing in yourself? Is fear of failure a big one for you? Has it limited you or stopped you from attempting something you really really wanted to do or accomplish? Will you join me in trying to overcome it? What steps will you take to rid that demon? I am working on that answer right now.. don't have it yet but working!
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Jody! I am so sorry for not coming here to thank you sooner, but I did get the wonderful, wonderful bag! Thank you SO much. You weren't kiddin' in your description of it! I have been carrying it everywhere and have gotten many comments for it. I hope your holiday was great...happy new year to you and I do hope that you can overcome some of those fears. 2010 is going to be a GREAT year, I can just feel it. Again, I'm sorry for not coming sooner and for basically falling off the face of the earth for the past two weeks. I hope you're doing well!!!
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Josie, so glad you love the bag!! I have wondered if all is OK on your end. Good to hear you are back! I hope we all can overcome our internal fears & make it right in 2010!
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Jody - Happy New Year to you! I hope that you will be able to meet all your personal and professional goals. I think we all have areas of our lives where we struggle - I know I do.
You can do whatever you set your mind to - you are a strong, smart woman and I'm glad we are blog friends!
Take care,
Diane
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Diane, yes, i know each of us has our own things that hold us back... this has always been a tough area for me even though I have accomplished things in the real life. I just got caught up in things that took a bad turn for me & that made me not want to try in that arena.
Thx so much for all your support & kind words!
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Hoping 2010 brings you closer to your dreams and aspirations! You've done a great job here, that's for sure!
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We are our own biggest obstacles, don't you think? If you pursue outside the gym the way you do inside the gym, I think you will have a lot of success!
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Lori, YES, we can be our own walls, our own obstacles for sure. I admit that! I agree. I keep telling myself to apply my gym principles out outside the gym. In fact, I have at times.... I am going to try again in 2010!
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"Let’s embrace a new perspective, and challenge the limits of that which we have known, by diving into the silent depths of being, to discover the undiscovered, and reunite with the union beyond discrimination, separation and the fear based control of the intellect."
What a statement.
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Steve, I agree.. an amazing statement!!!
That was a great article!
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Happy New Year, Jody!! : )
That was a great post, and so true! May we all face our fears and realize that we can do more than we thought!
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." -Winston Churchill-
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Lesley, thx so much! Yes, facing fears is tough stuff.. no matter that fear is. I love that quote! I will be posting that as a quote of the week! Thank you!
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One of the neatest things I've learned is how to transport the strengths I have in the gym to the outside world...and vice versa. We all have the power inside us; we just have to harness it.
May 2010 see the culmination of all your dreams. You know I'll be here cheering you on!
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Cammy, this is what I notice about all your posts! How great your attitude is & how you carry it over! Thank you for your support!
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What a beautiful post! Thank you so much!
I have always had trouble believing in myself, fearing that "once again" I will fail. I am learning, slowly but surely, though, to believe in myself and that I can do anything I put my mind to.
Thanks again for this post.
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Julie, thank you so much for your comment! It is certainly a slow process, this learning! I am 52 & still trying to get thru it! So glad you are believing in yourself! What a wonderful thing!
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I think most of us would do well to live full in the present.
Thank you so much for all the support and inspiration along the way.
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Tricia, so true! You have done so much! Congrats!
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"to make choices that are not hampered by the subconscious habits of the past"
-I'm learning I need to be more awake/alert during my day...my life. Waking up earlier is helping me not start the day out on automatic.
I liked what you said about love. Love carries so much energy and potential.
It's hard to rise to our potential ...fear is so (for a lack of a better word) anit-love.
There's so much growth moving out of our comfort zone. This is a good post. You are very insightful, especially to yourself.
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Gina, yes, the past can hamper us.... moving past it is key AND HARD!
Out of the comfort zone.. easy for me in exercise, hard in life. My next challenge!
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