YOU Will Motivate You!
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Motivation is a crazy thing. What motivates one person may not motivate another. Some like a Jillian from The Biggest Loser that will kick their butt & take a no nonsense approach. Take no prisoners type of thing although she does get into their mind too but in a tough love way. Some like a Bob from The Biggest Loser that although he kicks butt, he does it in more a touchy/feely/thought provoking way. Some like to go to groups & talk it out. Others like to do their own thing but maybe rely on a friend or family member for support. Some like the whole online thing... as we well know! 
You get it. The point I am getting at is motivation is key in not only getting started on a weight loss/"diet"/healthy eating program but to keep going on it when the times get tough or the times get crazy or there just is not enough time. We can call it any name we want but it takes motivation within yourself to DO IT.
I got an email a while back from someone saying that it is so frustrating to read blogs when the person keeps going on about how they screwed up every day or every other day & why do they do this & they meant to eat better & exercise & they did not.. & this goes on day after day. Listen, I understand this thought process but day after day, enough is enough. Find a way to motivate yourself. Don't keep writing about your screw ups. Do something about it. Every once in a while is fine.... every day is not. Too many people, and I know them, like to lie to themselves. They really know what they are doing but they just do not want to admit that it is hard work & you have to buckle down & do the hard work. Diane over at Fit to the Finish knows all about this and she has had her ups & downs for sure!!! BUT, she did finally get to "her motivation" to lose the weight.
I don't mean to be cruel or mean or anything like that. I am just saying that if you know this is you, at some point you have to put up or shut up as the saying goes. If you are not ready, admit that. If you are not ready to do the hard work, admit that too. That is fine if you admit that to yourself. Don't keep going on about why you are not losing weight or why you can't understand why you keep "screwing up" when you know why..... you just don't want to stop eating those cookies or chips or container of ice cream. You just do not want to move as much as you need to.You need to: Stop, look inward & figure it out.
YOU HAVE TO WANT THIS. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS. YOU HAVE TO FIND YOUR MOTIVATION. NOBODY ELSE CAN DO THAT FOR YOU. They can suggest things BUT YOU HAVE TO FIND WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU & WHAT YOU CAN LIVE WITH FOR LIFE! You have to want to do it & let nothing stop you.
You know, I have had MANY MOTIVATIONAL factors thru the years. The motivation that has pushed me through has changed with time. Open your mind, find the you & just do it. Don't go the insanity route! "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing year after year and expecting a different result."
Really, I am not trying to be mean. I just want you to accomplish your goals & be healthy. Take that first step & do not look back!
Motivation is a crazy thing. What motivates one person may not motivate another. Some like a Jillian from The Biggest Loser that will kick their butt & take a no nonsense approach. Take no prisoners type of thing although she does get into their mind too but in a tough love way. Some like a Bob from The Biggest Loser that although he kicks butt, he does it in more a touchy/feely/thought provoking way. Some like to go to groups & talk it out. Others like to do their own thing but maybe rely on a friend or family member for support. Some like the whole online thing... as we well know! You get it. The point I am getting at is motivation is key in not only getting started on a weight loss/"diet"/healthy eating program but to keep going on it when the times get tough or the times get crazy or there just is not enough time. We can call it any name we want but it takes motivation within yourself to DO IT.
I got an email a while back from someone saying that it is so frustrating to read blogs when the person keeps going on about how they screwed up every day or every other day & why do they do this & they meant to eat better & exercise & they did not.. & this goes on day after day. Listen, I understand this thought process but day after day, enough is enough. Find a way to motivate yourself. Don't keep writing about your screw ups. Do something about it. Every once in a while is fine.... every day is not. Too many people, and I know them, like to lie to themselves. They really know what they are doing but they just do not want to admit that it is hard work & you have to buckle down & do the hard work. Diane over at Fit to the Finish knows all about this and she has had her ups & downs for sure!!! BUT, she did finally get to "her motivation" to lose the weight.
I don't mean to be cruel or mean or anything like that. I am just saying that if you know this is you, at some point you have to put up or shut up as the saying goes. If you are not ready, admit that. If you are not ready to do the hard work, admit that too. That is fine if you admit that to yourself. Don't keep going on about why you are not losing weight or why you can't understand why you keep "screwing up" when you know why..... you just don't want to stop eating those cookies or chips or container of ice cream. You just do not want to move as much as you need to.You need to: Stop, look inward & figure it out.
YOU HAVE TO WANT THIS. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS. YOU HAVE TO FIND YOUR MOTIVATION. NOBODY ELSE CAN DO THAT FOR YOU. They can suggest things BUT YOU HAVE TO FIND WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU & WHAT YOU CAN LIVE WITH FOR LIFE! You have to want to do it & let nothing stop you.
You know, I have had MANY MOTIVATIONAL factors thru the years. The motivation that has pushed me through has changed with time. Open your mind, find the you & just do it. Don't go the insanity route! "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing year after year and expecting a different result."
Really, I am not trying to be mean. I just want you to accomplish your goals & be healthy. Take that first step & do not look back!
What is your motivation to keep you going? What spurred you on when you finally made the first step & kept on stepping? Have a been to mean in this post? Call me out if you think so.
My mirror is my motivation. And the threat of having to pull those larger sizes out of the attic. But wait. Wasn't I suppose to get RID of those larger sizes? I ain't going back there!
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Josie, I know you will not go back! Time to donate the big clothes!
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SO FUNNY YOU SAID THAT ABOUT THE INSANITY!!
I just emailed that to a friend and left it in a comment box.
I try and live that quote as for years I, well, DID THAT QUOTE!
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Miz, I lived that quote too many years too! We live & learn!
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Mean? No way. Unfortunately, this is much harder than it sounds. I know. For years I kept telling myself I was going to lose weight, and for years I didn't. It was finally the realization that I would never live to be an old man if something didn't change. At that point, it changed.
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Steve, you certainly did change your life! Amazing results!
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I have stopped reading several blogs because of that exact reason. I have no problems with reading about bad days/weeks and offering support, but the person has to be positive at some point and help themselves. (guess that sounds mean)
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THANK YOU for this post! Frankly, I don't "follow" bloggers who are like that....constantly screwing up, looking for verification that "it's ok, just get back on the horse" from their followers. I mean we all know that the occasional screw up happens, but seriously....day after day? IT'S NOT OK. YOU AREN'T REALLY CHANGING. Geesh. Own your evil, people...and face that you aren't ready yet. Talking the talk requires walking the walk. Literally and figuratively.
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i know exactly what you are talking about! i stopped reading blogs myself where the excuses outweighed the triumphs. i've been known to do that myself, and it's almost depressing reading through them. i don't think your post was mean at all. it's honesty, and people need to get some serious brutal honesty in their lives if they really want change.
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No way are you being mean! Keep telling it like it is! I know how tough finding motivation is for some, I've been trying to help my mom find hers for years. But you are right, the person has to want it, no one can do it for you but you!
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I pretty much agree, but some people really haven't been able to figure out why they are sabotaging themselves. I don't think it's as simplistic as saying they just want to keep eating bad stuff and/or not exercise. (We know that from our mother's struggles with weight all of her adult life) They just know they are sabotaging themselves. Do they not want to succeed, do they dislike themselves, do they fear success are they just lazy? To them, I say, yes, look inside yourself, but if you're not getting the answers you need, finding the solutions that work long term, then seek out a counselor/therapist, go to Eaters Anonymous, do something else than you've been doing to find the reasons for your problems and your inability to find the way that works for you. As we all know, people are COMPLICATED and life is complicated, and is where they are in life with different experiences, traumas, baggage, successes, etc. Yes, it'a bummer reading about someone whining all the time and to tune them out. Wouldn't it be great if somehow they could find the key to their obstacles?
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Bethe & Cammy, I agree with you both. There are lots of other factors & you both said it well!
I was more talking about the people that really know what is going on but keep on talking about what they do every day wrong even when they know what is going on.... BUT, yes this is a very complex issue & obviously another post to chat about this in the future!
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I get disappointed with people, who like the starfish on the beach, I "throw back" into the water, only to see them crawl back onto the sand to "die." I figure it's their destiny, and I let them go in peace.
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Dr. J.. what an analogy... it says it all...
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As a person who's 1-year into a weight loss journey I can say your comments are spot on. People have to be honest with themselves and realize their actions might not be in line with their expectations! Moreover, focusing on building healthy habits is essential. Consistency and routine will help you get through the rough patches when your motivation is not at a peak.
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